If you really want to get your ex back it’s important to understand that the emotional pain you are experiencing right now could keep you from some clear thinking. Unless you want to keep blundering along and make it even harder to get your ex back you must take a step back and honestly evaluate how you have handled the break-up situation so far. You may not realize that you may actually be pushing your ex even further away instead of increasing the odds in your favor that you will get your ex back.
When you have lost someone or something you are desperate to get back you frequently allow your emotions to take over and soon desperation can set in. In the instance of a break-up you might begin exhibiting the push away behaviors that make it much harder to get back together with your ex.
If you continually beg or plead with your ex to get back together with you it will only drive them further away. You might think that if you can only convince them of how much you love and need them, they will finally understand and come rushing back into your waiting arms. You may be surprised to find instead that you could be pushing them into the waiting arms of someone else instead!
It’s time to get your dignity back. Think of a classic movie scene you may have watched where the ex boyfriend or ex girlfriend is making desperate attempts to win their lover back with their needy declarations of undying love, or trying to win their ex back by convincing them of their attempts to change or their willingness to make it up to them for whatever they think they might have done wrong.
As you sat in the theater and watched a scene like that weren’t you usually cringing inside with embarrassment for the poor man or woman that was exhibiting such humiliating behavior and didn’t even realize it? Or even if they were aware of it they seemed powerless to stop themselves. You know as you watch that scene that our poor suffering movie character is ruining any chance they might have of getting back their ex.
Can you see yourself in that particular movie scene that just ran through your mind? Are you doing any of those things that keep pushing your ex away and make you feel worse and worse about yourself even though you think you can’t help yourself?
You’re sure that if you can just convince your them of your love you will win your ex girlfriend or ex boyfriend back, so you are determined to do anything it takes, even move mountains to get them to see how much you love them and need them. Never mind that you are building mountains between you and your ex instead. Or perhaps you think that yours is a true love and true love conquers all – wrong again! True love is the operative word here. Or perhaps we can use the word real love instead.
Real love isn’t desperate or needy. Real love is confident enough to allow your ex to have the space they need right now and give them time to breath before you make your next move – and if you play your cards right your next move will make it all the more likely that you will be able to get your ex to come back to you instead of continuing to push them away.
Now don’t give up if you feel you’ve messed things up too much – it’s never too late! Take that step back and give it a break. Use the time wisely to get yourself together and start learning a SMARTER WAY to get your ex back.